Why you should read this book?

This book will teach you techniques to attract women. Whether you want to attract the hottest girl in the club or the ugliest. This book reveals that Dominance, Fun, and a positive attitude are fundamental traits of an Attractive Person who can attract women and can build better relationships. Making yourself the object of desire will eliminate the scope of needy behavior and definitely being in control is one of the best things anyone can do which makes them highly desirable. Once you finish this book you will have all the knowledge on attracting women you will ever need. You will not have any excuse to hold you back.

Things to Remember:

Biggest Misconceptions of Attraction

Excuse #1: I’m Not Good Looking Enough

I can tell you from first-hand experience that you can attract hot girls no matter how you look. Why? Because the guy with the pimples, the weird teeth, and the big nose was me. The hot tall Romanian girl with the six-pack and the perfect ass was one of my ex-girlfriends.

Looks do give you an advantage with women but that advantage only lasts for the first few seconds of the interaction. Women are more likely to be open to interacting with you if you are good-looking because of the halo effect. The halo effect is when we judge someone based on their looks in a positive way.

Excuse #2: If Only I Was Rich

People with this mindset have the false perception that being rich will solve all their problems, including being able to attract women. “Expensive, materialistic things will not attract quality women, it will however attract gold-diggers”. For real human connection and attraction to occur there are multiple layers involved. It’s a process. A process money can’t buy.

Excuse #3: If I Was Famous I Could Easily Get Girls

Why did she reject a famous footballer who clearly has good looks, money and fame but agreed to go out with my friend who is just an average guy? The simple answer is that the characteristics I specified above do not matter with attraction. The girl clearly didn’t prioritise fame, money or looks just like 99% of the girls. They prefer men with attractive behaviour.

There is a way to make yourself seem more popular than you actually are to attract girls. This is called high social value. We will talk more about high social value later on and ow it will greatly increase your attractiveness.

The Difference Between Men and Women

A psychological drive is a way what affects your thinking and your actions. Once you understand the main drive in women you will instantly become more successful with the opposite sex. Men’s primary psychological drive is logic. What I mean by this is that men want things to be laid out as clearly as possible. Information needs to be given to them in a crystal clear manner. They want a simple step by step manual on everything they do in life.

The most important thing to a woman is the way something makes her feel. Women’s primary psychological drive is emotion. A woman is more likely to remember an event if she links emotion to that event. When attracting women, you should always try to concentrate on giving her emotions instead of making her like you. You offering the woman value in the form of positive emotions is what is going to make her strongly attracted to you.

You’re Being Brainwashed

Women aren’t goddesses, you shouldn’t put them on a pedestal. They are human beings just like the rest of us. Most men get this wrong and treat woman like royalty. Then they complain when they don’t “get lucky”.

Men are visually stimulated creatures, making them horny faster than women who are mentally stimulated creatures. For example, a man can see a pair of breast and get turned on. A woman on the other hand, can see the most physically attractive man in the world and will still not get tuned on.

The Behaviours of an Unattractive Guy

The most important step to becoming your most attractive self is to understand and eliminate all your unattractive behaviours.

Neediness: The most unattractive behaviour I see many guys have is neediness. For example, if you text a girl and she doesn’t reply within 10 minutes what would you do? The Unattractive guy would send her another text trying to get her to reply or even worse asking why she hasn’t replied. This screams out neediness since the underlying sub communication is “I have such a boring; dull life I am sitting, staring at my phone screen waiting for you to reply”.

Lives Life Based on Other People’s Opinions: A truly self-confident person doesn’t get affected by negative comments. There is a saying which states that “You must love yourself first before you can love someone else”. If you are weird embrace your weirdness. If you are nerdy embrace your inner nerd. If you love singing Justin Bieber songs, embrace it.

Buys Expensive Things Before Getting to Know the Girl: The biggest form of manipulation in dating is buying expensive, materialistic things for girls. We have been brainwashed to think that we must buy stuff for girls we are interested in. What you are communicating subconsciously to the girl when you buy her a drink at the bar is “I am not very interesting so I am going to buy you something so you can stay”.

Having a Quiet Voice: Speaking in a quiet voice shows that you are insecure about what you are saying. The unattractive man is constantly insecure which is why he doesn’t project his voice. He fears of being judged instead of speaking with confidence and volume.

Doesn’t Take Risks This is one of the hardest traits to overcome: Taking risks is something that can’t be learnt from reading a book or taking a course. You need to take action. An unattractive guy always plays it safe. He won’t touch a girl in case she doesn’t like it, he won’t say anything that has a slight chance of offending her and worst of all, he never goes for the kiss. It is too much pressure for him. Girls like guys that take the lead and that are sure of themselves. If you don’t take the risk you will never know what could have been.

Submissive Behaviour: Submissive behaviour is when you let other people and things control you. If you are not in charge, then you are submissive.

Constantly asking people’s opinions shows insecurity and uncertainty.

Pretending to Be Someone You Are Not: When you pretend to be someone you’re not it shows you are ashamed of who you are and hide your true self to get the girls approval. A girl is much more attracted to a guy that is genuine, it shows confidence.

The Filter: The one thing that is keeping you from attracting the perfect 10s is fear. “The Filter” is what will keep you from being able to talk to girls freely. Unless you stop using “The Filter” and start living in the moment instead of constantly trying to figure out what to say next, you will never be able to have a good long interaction with a girl.

In reality, challenging and teasing a girl is the fastest way to build attraction, not constantly agreeing with her and filtering out everything you want to say.

The Nice Guy: Nice is good for making friends, not for having sex and attracting hot women. The reason nice guys finish last is because nice guys are boring. To attract a woman, you need to give her emotions of excitement and adrenaline and sexual tension. You cannot achieve this by ‘being nice’ and putting her on a pedestal.

The truth is women are attracted to dominance. They are attracted to guys that can give them a mixture of emotions and make them aroused. They want a guy that isn’t afraid to take risks. They want a real man.

The Attractive Guys gives value in the form of fun. He is constantly having fun and being himself. When approaching a girl his mind-set is “I am having fun, I can offer you some of my fun. if you don’t want it that’s okay”. This is what makes the attractive guy so attractive. If you have this mind-set every time you talk to a girl and get rejected, you will never contact hurt.

The nice guy on the other hand is always taking value. He has nothing to offer the girl so he is obviously talking to her to get something from her, which is usually sex. The nice guy is always suspicious.

The Attractive Man

Since the core characteristic of the unattractive man is neediness, the main attractive trait of the attractive man is non-neediness. Everything he does he does it in a non-needy way.

He Isn’t the Nice Guy. A truly attractive man is not needy like the nice guy and is not a dick like the bad boy. He is his own category.

He Compliments the Girl Appropriately. Limit your compliments. Make them original and unique to the girl.

He Knows How to Give the Girl the Right Emotions. Challenging and teasing her gives her positive and negative emotions. The rollercoaster of emotions keeps the girl wondering whether he actually likes her or not. This is what creates that “spark” between the man and the woman. Even if he really likes the girl he will keep that information to himself because admitting it too early on will make him look needy and desperate.

He Spends Little Money. He spends very little money if not at all on dates with girls because he knows that a date with a girl isn’t about the expensive dinner or the surrounding. It’s about the quality of time they spend together.

He Lives Life on His Own Terms. The attractive man is not insecure therefore he doesn’t get affected by other people’s opinions.

He Is Dominant. The attractive man rarely displays submissive behavior. He is dominant in all areas of his life and puts himself and the people he cares about first.

He Expresses His Opinions Freely. The fact that he doesn’t agree with everything the woman says makes him stand out from 99% of guys. His teasing along with his non-needy attitude creates attraction between him and the woman.

He Is Who He Is. What makes anyone attractive is them being genuine. The attractive man is always genuine and never pretends to be someone he is not.

He Is Social: The attractive man is a very social person, that is part of what makes him attractive. The fact that he has many friends or that he is always seen with a few people surrounding him gives him an almost celebrity like look. Talk to anyone, it doesn’t have to be an attractive girl, it could be the bus driver or a person at a club or even the staff at the coffee place you buy your espresso from. Constantly find new people to talk to. Meeting new people in our everyday lives will show you that it is ok to talk to strangers. We are all strangers until you say ‘Hi’.

Socialise. Talk to people and you never know who you might meet or how they can benefit you in your life.

He Can Make Fun of Himself. The attractive man always has a great sense of humour but what makes him stand out is that he never uses other people as the butt of the joke. He always manages to make people laugh in a matter of seconds.

High Social Status. He Has Experience with Women, If you have a group of girls surrounding you at a bar, you will seem more attractive than a guy surrounded by a bigger group of guys. Women want what other women want.

He Is a Storyteller. The attractive man can tell stories effectively and with clarity You should always start your stories with the characters, then the location, then you tell what happens in order. You can sometimes say the location first then the characters involved in the story.

He Has Passions. His Time Is Valuable. What makes something valuable is the limited supply of it. What makes an attractive man so valuable? The answer is his time. Guys who are always available are way less attractive than guys who are busy most of the times.

His Voice. An attractive man isn’t afraid to express his opinions therefore his voice is always attention grabbing and clear.

He Never Judges Others: Judging isn’t a way to show you are better than someone else, it is simply a way to show your insecurities. By being critical of other people’s behaviours or looks you only project what you are not happy about on yourself. Judging is a way for toxic people to feel better about themselves. It is a selfish thing to do.

He Admits to His Mistakes: What makes a man seem more confident and in control of himself is admitting to his mistakes. This is one of the hardest and rarest qualities you will find on anyone.

If you want more girls in your life you need to get off your butt, go out and approach girls. Stop blaming everyone else for your inability to attract women.

In conclusion, no matter what type of guy you are “The Submissive Guy, The Unattractive Man or The Nice Guy” you can become more attractive. It won’t be easy and it won’t be fast but it will be worth it. If you start implementing attractive behaviours to your character, you will start to attract more women that you could possibly imagine.

The Body Language of the Attractive Man

Your body is constantly reflecting what you are truly thinking.

Holds Strong Eye Contact. Girls can instantly tell how confident you are based on the amount of eye contact you give to them. Your eye contact signifies your dominance.

Open Body Language. Examples of open body language: Good posture (Shoulders apart, straight back) Open arms, revealing the chest area Strong eye contact Head and chin up. The more space they take the more dominant they are.

When The Attractive Man has open body language, he automatically takes up more space.

How to Approach Women

The 3 Second Rule: The basic premise of this rule is that you have 3 seconds from noticing an attractive girl to get her attention. For example, you are sitting at a coffee shop by yourself on your laptop and a girl sits on the table next to you by herself, the moment you notice her if you don’t say hi or even get her attention by asking her a question or making a statement within three seconds, you most likely never will. You will never see that girl ever again.

Never Approach from Behind: The creepiest thing you can do is approach a woman from behind.

Never Touch On Approach, Look Friendly.

Statement of Empathy. This technique I am about to teach you is the most important technique I have learnt throughout my years of studying dating.

A statement of empathy is when you acknowledge the situation. That’s it. If you say something that acknowledges the situation, you are not weird anymore. It’s so simple yet so powerful. Examples of statement of empathy: “I know this is weird but…” “I know this might be awkward but…” “I know this is unusual but…” “Don’t worry I’m not a creep…” “I promise I’m not a stalker”

The mistake guys make is they approach a woman and the first thing that comes out of their mouth is a compliment. This is suspicious behaviour because it seems like you are trying to sell something to the girl.

Add some confidence and good body language behind your statement of empathy and you can be sure you will stand out from all the guys that have approached the girl. Establish Eye Contact Before You Approach Making intense eye contact with a girl you find attractive at the club, you will subconsciously tell her that you are a dominant attractive male.

Offer Value. Hot Girls Are Rarely Alone. Never Buy a Girl a Drink.

How to Create an Intriguing Conversation Out of Thin Air

The biggest excuse guys use when it comes to approaching women is “I don’t know what to say”. The truth is you can say a million different things; you are just trying to find the ‘perfect thing’ to say. After years of studying the psychology of dating, I came to realise that there is no ‘perfect thing’ to say. As you become more experienced with women you will come to realise that what you say doesn’t matter as much as you might think.

It’s NOT What You Say, It’s HOW You Say It

Change Your Perspective: Instead of approaching a girl with certain expectations and trying to imagine what to say and how she might respond, go in with the intention of having fun. No need for pre written lines or imaginary scenarios. Just be genuine. Let’s look at some techniques that will help you keep the conversation flowing.

Cold Reading: The easiest way to start a conversation out of thin air is Cold Reading. Cold reading is when you judge a person’s character or personality based on visual elements. When you are cold reading to give a compliment, make sure you make it unique to the girl. She doesn’t want to hear the same old boring compliments.

Teasing: Teasing is when you make fun of the girl but not in a way to hurt her.

When a guy comes around and teases the girl and the girl teases back, we call that flirting. It’s after a good tease where you start to think “wow this girl/guy is actually pretty cool”.

Role-Play: Role-play will only work on a girl that has a good sense of humour. If she goes along with it, it can create immense attraction for you. The Role-play technique is when you pretend to be someone you’re not or create a scenario and act it out in a way. The most effective way to use this technique is if in the scenario you create, you and the girl are “together”. This subconsciously gets her imagining you two together. “We’re breaking up” or “our friendship is over”. If your role-play consists of you and the girl together it will be much more powerful.

Busting her Balls: Busting her balls is when you say a statement or a question in a serious manner only to reveal in the end that you were just joking. I love this because for a second or two the girl doesn’t know how to react. She will be unsure if you are serious or not.

Inside Joke: This is probably the most powerful flirting technique because every inside joke is unique to the girl. An inside joke is when you have a joke or a reference that refers to a previous conversation you had with the girl.

Object of Desire: The most desirable things are often those that are hard to obtain. If you truly want to attract a woman, you need to communicate to her that there is doubt she can have you. You aren’t as easy to obtain as she might think. If she is unsure whether she can have you or not this will create mystery in your interactions along with attraction. Teasing is a great way to create uncertainty and doubt in her mind that she can have you. The guy who doesn’t tease is the guy who gets friend-zoned. You must be the object of desire. You must be the ultimate prize not the girl.

Sexual Innuendos: The factor that separates a friend from a boyfriend to a girl is sex. If she views you as a potential sex partner, then you can become intimate with her. The best way to get her to imagine you as a sex partner is using sexual innuendos. A sexual innuendo is a statement that can be interpreted in a sexual manner. The most effective form of sexual innuendos is when you make it seem as if she is flirting with you. For example, if you are trying to get your phone out of your pocket and the girl says “just take it out” you can say “whoa easy, at least wait for the first date”.

When talking to girls try to find a way to use these lines “you have to take me out for a drink first” or “Whoa, we only just met”. Do whatever you can to make it seem like she wants you. Flip the script so you can become the object of desire.

Future Plans: There is a technique I use to make the girl visualise us doing things together. While interacting with a girl you suggest something you guys should do together. For example, you could be talking about your favourite film and she says she has never watched it. you reply “You haven’t watched it? that’s it we are watching it together. We will order pizza, dim the lights, cover ourselves with blankets and watch the movie”.

Building Trust

Now that you have learnt some basic flirting techniques, it time to take your interactions to a deeper level by building trust.

Passion The simplest way to build trust and show her you are a real human being is to bring her into your world. Showing interest in her life will make her open up to you but you need to open up to her in order to build trust. The easiest way to do this is to talk about your passions.

Things in Common The easiest way to be liked by someone is if you share a common interest. We tend to like and are attracted to people that have things in common with us.

Story Telling: Story telling is most effective when used in a subtle manner.

Now that you know how to keep the conversation going it is time to move on to some more advanced techniques. These techniques will make people wonder “How the hell is he so good with girls”.

What NOT to Say

It is important to be genuine and be yourself when interacting with girls.

Don’t Lie. Don’t crack offensive jokes and never be Over-Complimenting.

There are 2 basic rules for complimenting a woman. Rule #1 Give her a genuine compliment. When you compliment a woman direct it to her. State something about her. Not the dress she is wearing or how attractive she is. Give her a compliment on something she can control. You can complement her style, her smile, her weird laugh, the way she walks, her personality, anything that she has control over. Anything that is unique to her. If you compliment a girl on how attractive she is, then you have just given her a compliment she has heard a million times from other guys. She subconsciously places you in a category as “just another guy”. If you give her a genuine and different compliment she will appreciate it much more. Rule #2 No more than one compliment. Sometimes you can make an exception and give the girl two compliments, but that should be the maximum in an interaction. Compliments are great for making friends, not attracting girls.

No Complaining, No Ex-Girlfriend talks, No Bragging - Women aren’t attracted to the perfect guy they are attracted to the guy that is perfectly fine with himself., No Sex Talk, No need for Qualifying Yourself -  this means not becoming a checklist of her wants.

How to Never Run Out of Things to Say

Stop Thinking: Attractive men are not afraid of taking risks. If you feel like a joke is funny say it, if you want to talk about Spiderman with a girl start a conversation about Spiderman. Don’t overthink it. Once I stopped overthinking when talking to girls, I instantly became funnier and wittier.

Observe Your Surrounding: you might start talking to a girl in a café and the conversation dies down but then you spot a really tall man. You can start a conversation about that man. “I wonder what it feels like to be that tall” “It would be hard to kiss a girl when you’re that tall”, there are a million possibilities. Never judge the person or say anything mean about them because this will make you look insecure.

Conversation String: The secret to holding a conversation forever is to use the conversation string technique. The conversation string is when you grab a word from the girls answer or statement to the question and build off that. It’s that simple. Let’s say the girl says “I love cars. I always wanted a pink Ferrari.”

Switch Topic: Subconsciously if you talk about 50 different topics but you have only been talking for 10 minutes it will feel like you have been talking for hours and that will make the girl feel like she has known you forever. You can effortlessly switch the topic by using the conversation string technique to pick out a word and make another conversation out of that.

Yes, And…: The ‘Yes and…’ technique allows you to make it easier for the other person to continue the conversation. When a girl shows slight interest in you and asks you a yes or no question NEVER answer it with a plain yes or no. From the moment you answered yes or no, that conversation has died down. Instead answer with “Yes and…” or “No because…” and then continue the conversation.

Interview Mode: There are some simple things you can do to avoid going into “interview mode”. You can apply these as soon as you want. Number #1 Never ask more than 2 questions back to back There is a universal law about the number 3. If you ask the teacher for permission to go to the toilet at 12 o clock she will most likely let you. Number #2 Always ask open ended questions. Open ended question are questions that have an answer that doesn’t consist of one word. If you use open ended question you ae giving the girl a chance to give you a more detailed answer and keep the conversation going. Open ended questions start with “Who, What, Where, Why, When, How” most of the times. What you should avoid asking is closed questions. These questions have a yes or no answer. They cause the conversation to die down. “Did you like it?” Number #3 What if questions. These are the most fun questions you could ask. You can just let your imagination run free and you get the girl thinking.

The “What if” technique works better if you have already started talking with a girl for a while.

Girl Test

A girl needs a way to determine whether you are an attractive, independent, confident man. If you hold your attractive body language and brush off her comment as if it doesn’t faze you, you will pass 99.9% of girl tests. Even better is if you give a witty comment back while keeping eye contact. One of the most common girl test you will receive is the jealousy test.

How to Deal with Her Friends

Acknowledge The Friends: The worst mistake you can make is to approach a group of girls and only talk to the girl you like.

Don’t Flirt with The Friends, Never Insult Her Friends.

Always stay fun and positive no matter how much shit any group of girls give you.

When you take her away from her friends you must let them know you are taking her away. There is a certain phrase I use that will make the friends cool with you taking her away. “Me and (girls name) are going to (do something) real quick. I’ll bring her back in I promise. This phrase has 3 parts.

How to Deal with Other Guys

There are simple ways to determine if you should even attempt to approach the girl if there are guys in her group.

Look at Their Body Language. Is He Her Boyfriend? The best way to find out if they are in a relationship is to just ask.

Before finding out if they are together approach the group, acknowledge everyone including the guy, befriend everyone and then you can find out their relationship stats by asking it in a subtle way. All you have to ask is “How do you know each other?”. They will answer this question by explaining they are either friends, or related or in a relationship.

Boyfriend Shows Up After You Approach Her: You see a girl sitting by herself. You build up the courage and you approach her. You start talking and 3 minutes later a guy shows up. It turns out it is her boyfriend. Most guys would feel bad and apologise and exit that interaction as soon as possible. This is the wrong approach When he enters the interaction don’t try to “run away”. Instead acknowledge the boyfriend and show you are not a threat. You can ask “How did you guys meet” to show that you’re not intimidated that a boyfriend invaded your interaction.

Body Language of a Woman Attracted to You

Body Language of a Woman Attracted to You One of the hardest things to figure out when it comes to dating is if a woman is attracted to you or not. It requires experience to be able to read the subtle signals the woman is giving off. Here are some signs that a woman is attracted to you.

Physicality We talked about being physical with a woman earlier. If she is reciprocating your touches, then this is a sign that she is attracted to you.

Laughter There is a saying that goes something along the lines of “The best way to get the girl is to make her laugh”. She is constantly laughing at your jokes, no matter how bad they are, she is most likely attracted to you.

Touching Herself I don’t mean this in a dirty way. If the girl is stroking or playing with her hair it is a sign of nervousness. This also applies for when she is touching her neck or her arm. The fact that she is nervous around you could signify that she is attracted to you.

Taking A Peek If the girl is constantly trying to look at you in a subtle way, then it could be a sign of attraction. This is probably the hardest sign to spot because the girl will look at you when you’re not looking at her. Girls are very good at being stealthy.

Proximity: When a girl is trying to get closer to you or is using an excuse to get closer to you it is a sign that she is attracted to you. Questions When a girl starts to become interested in you she will start to ask you questions. Even if it is just asking your name it is still a sign of interest. A common sign of disinterest is looking around. This behaviour will sometimes be subconscious because the girl is trying to “find a way out”. Another common sign of disinterest is her trying to leave while you are talking.

How to Avoid the Friend Zone

You’re Not Her Friend The fastest way to get friend zoned is to act like her friend. Submissive guys get friend zoned. You’re Not Her Therapist If you truly want to build a connection and be able to have long conversations with girls, you should listen to her. What I mean by this is to listen to her when she talks about her passions or her family, NOT when she talks about her problems.

You could also say “Let’s leave all that behind us. We are out to have fun” and then change the conversation.

Don’t Talk About Other Men If you are talking about other men she is thinking about other men.

You want the girl to be thinking of having sex with you to avoid the friend zone. You can’t do this without breaking the physical touch barrier.

If you want to avoid the friend zone you need to show her, you are comfortable talking about sex but must start in a subtle way though. Needy men get friend zoned.

When interacting with a girl make sure to use her name every now to build trust.

Make the Girl Chase You

Make Her Invest When you first approach a girl it is obvious that you are going to put in more effort than she will until you build trust and arousal. Once she starts to realise that you are a cool you need transition who is investing more in the conversation. How do you do that? Shut up and listen. It’s as simple as that. You need to give the girl space to invest. Tease her as much as possible. Teasing and challenging her will make her chase you like crazy. It doesn’t have to be verbal. Not being easy to obtain and constantly teasing her whether she can have you or not will make her more attracted to you.

Exchanging Numbers and Texting

“Getting the girl's number” shouldn’t be your priority when interacting with a girl. Your priority is to have as much fun as possible and offer fun to the girl. Instead of asking the girl for her number, you should always say “Let’s exchange numbers” or “We should exchange numbers”. This is very powerful because you are subconsciously communicating “Let’s do something together”. There is one thing you should never do when it comes to exchanging numbers. NEVER say thank you.

The main purpose of texting is not to have a long deep conversation with the girl. The only purpose of texting is to get the girl out on a date.

Many guys stress over the first text and sit there endlessly thinking of the perfect first text. A low-investment text is a simple text which you didn’t have to put a lot of thought into. If you are going to text a girl through Instagram or other social media, you have the advantage of sending photos and videos. You can always start the conversation by sending her a funny photo.

Instead what the attractive man does is goes out and have fun. He lives his life. He doesn’t spend hours waiting for a girl he has talked to for an hour to reply to his message. He pursues his hobbies and passion, he reads a book, watches a film, spends time with family and friends, and many more, instead of staring at his phone waiting for a text message that will give him validation.

The final text should look like this: “Let’s grab coffee Wednesday night, as long as you don’t turn out to be a psycho” You can see that you qualifying the girl takes the pressure off the situation. If you say “Do you want to go on a date on Wednesday?” this puts too much pressure on the girl. With the text above you show dominance and also take the pressure of the girl.

HAPPY READING!