CONVERSATION CASANOVA: 

How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro

Why you should read this book?

What you’re about to discover is a system that anyone can use to unlock the power of conversation. Whether you’re talking to women during the day, at the bar, or at your job– it doesn’t matter. This conversation system will work anywhere. So sit down and buckle up. The guys who “get it”– all do similar things in conversation. They know how to make things sexual, make women laugh, have a good time, and connect with women. What’s more, you’ll also discover a system to easily replicate these types of conversations– and add your own style. The way you talk to people is about to change forever…

The difference between a man who uses this book to transform his conversation skills and a man who reads this book but fails to make changes is one small thing: action. To get the most out of this book, you must do 2 things: 

1. Be open to accepting new ideas. 

2. Take action and implement the conversation strategies into your life.

What the author has learned is you don’t need to be rich, great looking, or have a great job to meet and attract women… But you DO need the right mindset, the confidence to approach and start conversations, and the ability to communicate sexually.

The author also discovered that: -You can learn how to get to know people on a deeper level -You can learn how to be witty and make women laugh -You can learn how to communicate sexually and turn women on -You can learn how to give a woman the most amazing conversation she’s ever had…every time. -You can learn how to use conversation to get women irresistibly attracted to you and thinking about going home with you…minutes after first meeting you.

This book is divided into 6 key parts:

Part 1 will give you the mindset of a man who attracts women through conversation. This will be your foundation. 

Part 2 will help you start the conversation the right way, so you can develop it into something more. 

Part 3 will give you the essentials for flirting and sexual communication. You’ll learn how to make conversations more sexual, flirt, and turn women on with your words.

Part 4 will be your guide to connecting with women. You’ll learn what to do and what NOT to do– so that your conversations flow smoothly and you can connect with women easily. 

Part 5 will teach you to capture women’s attention and attract them through conversation. You’ll learn how to hook her in with stories and how to talk about yourself attractively. 

And finally, part 6 will give the remaining conversation strategies and tips you need to get through any conversation successfully.

Part I: The Casanova Mindsets (The Deeper Level of Conversation)

“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.”

A good mindset will help you to take the right action most of the time. Even if you’ve never faced a particular situation before, you’ll be able to react calmly and efficiently… For example, if you have a positive mindset like, “All women are attracted to me until proven otherwise,” you’ll talk to a woman like she’s attracted to you. In doing so, you’ll be more flirtatious, confident, and naturally more sexual. You’re far more likely to move the conversation toward what you want (like sex or a future date).

Remember: Your mindsets dictate your thoughts, your thoughts dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your results.

Effective Ways to change your mindset:

Taking Responsibility

We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control 

a) how we interpret what happens to us, and 

b) how we respond to what happens to us. 

Therefore, whether we consciously recognize it or not, we are always responsible for our experiences and our life.

Casanova Mindset #1: I am responsible for my life and my circumstances.

To be successful in any area, you must take success into your own hands. Realize that you have much more control over your circumstances and your life than you might think. Being in control is the sexiest thing in every circumstance. It shows your calmness and great level of understanding.

Overcoming the Need for Validation 

Casanova Mindset #2: I am enough. I don’t need the approval of anyone else to feel complete. When you focus on getting approval, you live up to other people’s values. As you develop the mindset that “you are enough,” you start living up to your own values.

A Man With Purpose

Women are attracted to men with purpose; a driving goal, propelling them forward despite the obstacles. Men with a purpose don’t depend on women’s approval. A man with purpose isn’t affected by a bad conversation or two. Casanova Mindset #3: Women are not my #1 priority. I have a mission and purpose outside of women. You need to have a mission in life outside of women. Otherwise, you will be too tempted to give up on your passions and your direction in life and focus completely on women. Women will sense that they are the center of your world, and you won’t be able to genuinely love them or connect with them. Instead, you will rely on them to fill needs that they cannot fill. This will undermine your conversations and your relationships.

“She’s Into Me”

You must assume attraction from all women until proven otherwise. And by “proven otherwise,” I mean until she literally walks always or flat-out tells you she isn’t interested. Casanova Mindset #4: All women are attracted to me until proven otherwise. When you see and interact with women you’re interested in, you must treat them like you’re going to date them and bring them home. This will change the way you talk to women, and also allow you to meet more women. By assuming attraction, you’ll give yourself the best chance with women in every interaction. Assuming attraction won’t make women magically fall all over you. If a girl isn’t interested in you, “assuming attraction” won’t be enough to flip her. But if you approach them confidently, most women will be at least a little intrigued and open to you. By assuming attraction, you’ll filter out the women who wouldn’t have been into you anyway, and give yourself a much better chance of attracting the women who are at least open to you.

Part II: Initiate the Conversation

What to do when you are afraid to approach her. How can you start seizing the opportunities instead of letting them slip through your fingers? 
It comes down to the following 4 actions…

Focus on Overcoming Your Fear

One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.– Henry Ford
When you focus on confronting and overcoming the fear, you’ll not only approach more women, but you’ll also grow as a man.

Shift Your Perspective

When you’re afraid to approach her, your risk spectrum looks like this: Risk of approaching her: You’ll have an awkward interaction, get rejected, and feel terrible– a big risk. Risk of doing nothing: No risk– you’ll save your ego, stay in your comfort zone, and move on like nothing happened. But you need to shift your perspective so that it’s actually more risky not to approach her. You need to adjust your understanding of the risks, so that: 
Risk of approaching her: Potential awkward interaction with a girl you’ll probably never see again. So, 1-2 minutes of discomfort– a small risk. Risk of doing nothing: You miss out on a potential amazing connection and incredible sex with a woman you’re attracted to– a big risk. Risk of building the habit of not approaching: You signal to your subconscious that it’s “okay” not to approach women you’re interested in. In doing so, you miss out on other great girls in the future– another big risk. Use this reversal of risk to propel you forward and get the women you want. Make a conscious effort to view approaching women from this perspective. 
It is better by noble boldness to run the risk of being subject to half the evils we anticipate than to remain in cowardly listlessness for fear of what might happen.– Herodotus

Stop Waiting for the Right Moment Don’t waste time waiting for the right moment. 

You won’t find it– you’ll always have an excuse in your head as to why it’s the wrong moment.

Tap Into Your Manhood

Tap into your manhood and focus on what you find attractive about her– this will make it easier to approach, and the girl will usually respond better.

The fear of approaching a new girl will always be there. You can never completely eliminate it. But that’s okay– you don’t need to. A little fear is what makes the process fun and rewarding. So, keep these 4 actions in mind to help you conquer fear when you feel like it’s overwhelming you.

5 Ways to Start a Conversation With Any Girl

Well, what you say to start the conversation depends on a few things, like: -The environment. The way you start a conversation during the day may be a bit different than the way you start a conversation at a nightclub. -The girl. If she’s in a rush, you’ll have to move the conversation quickly. Whereas, if she’s standing and watching a street performer, you know she has some time, and there are plenty of things to talk about.` -Your goals. Maybe you’re not super interested in the girl and you just want to build some social momentum. Or, maybe your intuition literally forced you to talk to this girl because she caught your eye so strongly.

Going “Direct”

When it’s best to use: Anytime. You can say: “Hey, I know this is really random, but I saw you walking by and I thought you were cute. So, I had to say ‘Hi’. I’m [Your name].” It’s very important to say this one slowly and shake her hand afterward. You want to say it like this… “Hey… I know this is reaaaallly random… but I saw you walking by... and I thought you were cute… So I had to say ‘Hi’…I’m [Your name].”
Going “direct” is powerful because it shows confidence, and if she stays in the conversation, it’s a sign that she’s at least somewhat interested in you.

Situational

Here, you pick out something from the environment and use it to start the conversation. When it’s best to use: At a bar or club, or when the two of you are stationary (in one place, perhaps looking at something like a street performer). You could say, “I always confuse these things with real statues. My friends always make fun of me for it.” This is a fun, tongue-in-cheek way to initiate the conversation. 

The key is to deliver this with a slight smile, so she knows you’re being playful. You want it to come across in more of a fun way rather than a serious tone. The “situational” conversation starter can be powerful because it already gives you a topic to discuss. It can also be a great way to make her laugh from the beginning. However, make sure not to stay on the topic too long, as it can go stale and get boring. There’s only so much you can say about a street performer.

The “Where is Starbucks?”

When it’s best to use: During the day while you’re walking in a city that has Starbucks (if that city doesn’t have Starbucks, any other popular café/restaurant will do). Here’s the key to pulling this one off… First, spot the girl you want to talk to. Typically, she’ll be walking towards you on the sidewalk. Once you’re within 10 feet of her, slowly raise your hand in front of you to get her attention. She’ll usually see your hand and your eye contact before she gets to you. Then, plant your feet and stop in front of her. Ask, “Hey, do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?” Before she can fully respond, cut her off and say, “Actually, I just thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you. I’m [Your name].”
This conversation starter is powerful because it allows you to gauge her vibe and attractiveness before you show your interest. For example, simply by her response and the way she starts to deliver her answer, you can tell how open she is to have a conversation with you. For example, if she smiles and lights up a little bit, you know you have a good chance to make something happen. Plus, if she’s not as attractive as you thought she was from afar, you can just ask the Starbucks question and let her give you the directions, then walk away. It’s very low risk.

The Simple Introduction

Here, you don’t try to get too cute. You just give her a simple, “Hey, how’s it going? Or, “Hey, I’m [Your name]. How’s it going?” When it’s best to use: At bars and clubs and other social environments. It’s important to deliver this with confidence, strong eye contact, and a lower tone of voice. Otherwise, you’ll come across in a platonic “just friends” sort of way, and you’ll often get brushed off by women. It’s powerful because of its simplicity. You don’t have to dig for what to say. You know that you have this simple conversation starter in your back pocket.

The Seahorse vs Octopus

When it’s best to use: Anytime, but especially at night in bars and loungey types of places. Here’s how to use it… You go up to a group of girls and say, “My friends and I have been having an interesting discussion and wanted your input.”
It’s powerful because it’s a very fun way to start the conversation, and engages women right away. Plus, it’s great to use when you’re talking to groups of women.

How to Make a Great First Impression

What to Say After You Start the Conversation

We’ve all been in that type of situation before. We start off well but then go blank, and the conversation stalls. So, how can you prevent this? What should you say and do after you approach her?
The First Question: Here’s the question: “What are you up to?” 
(I told you it was simple, right?) It’s powerful because it can instantly tell you her logistics. You’ll know: -If she’s in a rush - If she has a few minutes to talk -If she has a lot of time. 
Let’s look at these situations you’ll face after approaching a girl for the first time– as well as how you can handle each.
Situation #1: She’s in a Rush
Here’s what you should say if she’s in a rush:, “I know this is random and we literally just met, but you have a really fun/interesting vibe. We should grab a drink this week or next.” If she says something along the lines of “No” followed by an excuse (like “I have a boyfriend”), you can say, “No worries, just take it as a compliment then,” and leave the conversation.
Situation #2: She Has a Few Minutes to Talk
Your goal here should be to make a good first impression and get her number at a high point in the conversation. All you really have to do here is make an assumptive statement. There are three types of assumptive statements you can make: 1. Where she’s from: “You look like you’re from New York.” 2. What she does for a living: “You seem like you do something creative.” 3. What type of person she is: “You seem like a fun, adventurous kind of person.” From here, you should be able to keep the conversation going for 2-3 minutes. Then, when the conversation seems to be at a high point (the two of you are laughing, realize you have something in common, etc.), tell her you need to go and ask for her number. You can say something like, “Listen, it’s been great to meet you. I gotta go, but you seem like a lot of fun. We should grab a drink this week or next.” Once she says “Yes!” pull out your phone and have her put her number in. 
Situation #3: She’s Got a Lot of Time on Her Hands
After approaching her, you realize she’s not really doing much right now. She’s not in a rush and she doesn’t have to be anywhere. Here, you have two options: 1. Take her on an “instant date” 2. Talk to her for a little while and grab her number (similar to if she has a few minutes to talk). Aside from making statements, you can also: -Ask open-ended questions (like, “What brings you to X city?”), then listen and relate back with your own experiences -Compliment her in genuine and unique ways (like, “You have a very unique style. I might need to get some fashion tips from you”) -Playfully tease her (i.e. Oh you’re from LA? You’re a Valley girl at heart, aren’t you?”)
How to Take Her on an “Instant Date”
Here, you can say, “I’m not in a big rush right now and you seem like fun. I know a great ice cream/coffee place down the street. What do you say we check it out?” The benefit of an “instant date” like this is that it can create a deeper connection and more familiarity with the girl. The danger is it can lead to you getting friend-zoned. For it to work well, you need to maintain the flirtatious, man-to-woman type of vibe throughout the interaction (which can sometimes be difficult in a daytime setting if you don’t have a lot of experience).

1) They’re Too Blunt: great flirting is much more subtle.

2) They’re Overly Direct: Being overly direct also ruins the mystery.

3) They Use Friendly Flirting Instead of Sexual Flirting: Friendly flirting is the easy route. It’s innocent and doesn’t require much risk. If you try to “high-five” a girl, she’ll usually do it. But if you try to hold hands with her and play with her fingers? Well, that’s much bolder and riskier. Most guys go with friendly flirting. As a result, their interactions lack any sort of sexual undertone.

The Biggest Key to Effective Flirting

The Biggest Key to Effective Flirting Flirting is an art that few men have mastered.
the most important element of flirting: Intent. 
MOST guys come across in this very platonic way when they approach or talk to girls. But wait– why should you communicate with sexual intent?
-It destroys any chance of you being in the friend zone -It communicates that you’re a sexy guy who goes for what he wants -It’s the foundation of building sexual attraction -Women will be a lot more likely to see you again -It sexually charges your conversations. You usually approach a girl because you’re attracted to her. There’s something about her that you find sexy. But throughout your whole life, you’ve been programmed to cover up your sexual desires. You’ve basically been told to hide the fact that you have a dick, thanks to all the crappy advice and political correctness in the media. But you do have a dick, so you should act like you have one. The girl should have no doubt that she’s speaking to a sexual man who goes for what he wants. On the surface, here’s what it looks like to communicate with intent: -Hold strong eye contact -Talk slower -Smile Below the surface, you’re thinking: -I might want to fuck this girl and I’m okay if she picks up on this vibe -She is attracted to me -I choose the women I want in my life This takes some work– but once you can start communicating with intent, your conversations with women will transform.

Subtlety, Exaggeration, and Becoming the Prize

There’s a difference between explicitly saying that you like a girl (or that you want to have sex with her, kiss her, etc.) and implying it. The latter is much more exciting to women. Subtlety and implication are key. If you’re talking to a high-quality woman, she’s usually going to try to test you at some point. These tests usually come in the form of verbal jabs. She wants to see how you respond. If you pass, she knows you’re confident in yourself and your intentions. The best way to get through these tests (and also to infuse flirting into the conversation) is to agree and exaggerate. Remember the “She’s into me,” mindset from the first section of this book? Well, this is basically the verbalization of that mindset. Here, you occasionally insinuate that she’s hitting on you or trying to seduce you. You do this by twisting her words and making it seem like she’s trying to turn you on. Keep in mind: when flirting, it’s important to maintain at least a slight smile and good eye contact. This keeps the vibe fun and lets her know that you’re being playful. Here’s a quick recap of the flirting techniques in this chapter: -Using subtlety -Exaggeration -Positioning yourself as the prize.

How to Tease Her the Right Way
How to Tease Her the Right Way Teasing is another conversational key to successful flirting. let’s break down teasing into two steps: 1) what to avoid and 2) how to tease her the right way.
The Wrong Teasing: What to Avoid
Sensitive Topics Don’t tease girls about sensitive topics that may offend them. You should inherently know what most of these topics are. Topics like: -Physical features -Fashion/style -Social skills -Intelligence -Family She’s likely to take these types of teases as insults. when it comes to flirting and teasing women, self-deprecation usually isn’t worth the laugh.
How to Tease Her the Right Way
Absurdifying is the art of taking a normal topic and making it a little ridiculous. This is a fun and playful way to tease her, and one of my personal go-to’s. It also makes the conversation more intriguing because it’s less predictable.

Flirting Without Your Words

Part IV: Connect

You now have a basic framework for: -Getting through your fear of approaching new women -Starting a conversation -Making a great first impression -Flirting -Continuing the conversation and getting her number.
How to Get Past Small Talk and Connect With Her?
It’s a combination of the following: -Asking the right questions -Listening and relating -Avoiding common conversation mistakes.
Asking the Right Questions A few simple, pointed questions can draw her interest, open the conversation, and help you plow past small talk.
Why Questions Are Important This is counterintuitive, but when you prompt people to tell you about themselves, they actually perceive you as more interesting…even if they barely know anything about you. the best way to prompt people to do so is to ask the right questions…
How to Structure Your Questions?

Short-Answer Questions: Ask too many of these types of questions in a row, and you’ll find yourself deep in “interview mode” on a conversational path that leads to nowhere. These are the questions that only require a one-word response, like: -“Where did you go to school?” -“What do you do?” -“Where are you from?” Now, it’s okay to ask these types of questions, especially at the beginning of the conversation. In fact, it’s almost necessary. But, unless you follow up with open-ended questions, the conversation will fall flat.

Open-Ended Questions: These questions require a deeper and more extended response. More than yes/no, or one word. These are your money questions. If you can master these, you’ll be able to open up almost any conversation. 

Here’s how you can mix these in with short-answer questions: You: “What do you do?” (short-answer question) Her: “I’m a lawyer.” You: “Cool cool. How did you get into that?” (open-ended question) Her: “Well, my dad was a lawyer and ever since I was a kid, I…[blah blah blah]” You: “Oh wow, that’s awesome. What do you like about it?” (open-ended question)

The key with open-ended questions is that you need to dig a little deeper. For example, instead of asking “Did you like it?”, ask “What did you like about it?”

Getting the talk on an emotional level is the key, so the girl starts talking with her heart and it will become memorable for her.

You need to balance short-answer questions with open-ended questions. Here are some powerful open-ended questions to ask: -What do you like about your job?

-What was it like growing up there (where they grew up)? -If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? -What’s your dream job? -Why are you doing X instead of Y?

Listening and Relating: This is a big mistake guy make. Instead of actively listening to a woman, they nod along with a blank stare or wait for her to shut up so they can say what they want.

Avoiding Common Conversation Mistakes
Mistake #1: Stating Contentious Opinions: Solution #1: Be Non-Judgmental and Focus on Commonalities
Mistake #2: Getting Married to a Conversation Topic: Solution #2: Weave in Multiple Topics. Here are some emotional topics for you to dive into: 
-Her dreams 
-Her experiences 
-What she loves to do 
-What she is passionate about 
-What are her motivations are
Mistake #3: Talking Too Much About Yourself: Solution #3: Focus the Conversation on the Girl

5 Go-To Conversation Topics for Connecting

Don’t formulaically cycle through them like a robot. Allow the conversation to flow and evolve. Also, try to relate back to her responses with something relevant to your own life. This shows her that you “get her” and that you’re actually interested and paying attention.)
Her Experiences
Here are some questions that can get you to this topic: -“What made you want to come to this city?” -“What was your last big adventure?” -“Where is your favorite place you’ve traveled?” Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like: -“How did it feel when you did X?” -“What was it like to do X?” When you ask these types of questions, you’ll tap into the emotions she felt when she had those experiences.
Her Dreams
What does she really want to do with her life? What are her biggest aspirations? Here are some questions that can get you to this topic: -“What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?” -“What’s something you want to achieve this year?” Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like: -“How would it feel to do that?” -“How would your life change if you accomplish that?”
What She Loves to Do
What do you love to do? Think about it for a minute… No, really. Do it right now. Did you think about it? Okay, good… How did it feel? Here are some questions that can get you to this topic: -“What do you absolutely love to do?” -“What kind of activities set you on fire and get you excited?” -“What kinds of things make you laugh the hardest?” Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like: -“What do you love about X?” -“How do you feel when you do X?”
Her Passions
Here is a question that can get you to this topic: “What are you most passionate about?” Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like: -“What makes you passionate about X?” -“How do you feel when you’re following that passion?”
Her Motivations
Why does she want the things she wants? What are her true motivations? Most men never dig this deep… They ask questions like, “What do you do?” She responds with something like, “Oh I’m a lawyer.” He follows up with, “Cool! Do you like it?” to which she responds, “It’s okay, and what about you?”
That’s the foundation of a boring, polite, platonic conversation. And that’s exactly what you DON’T want… Instead, try to figure out exactly why she wants the things she wants. When you do this from a place of curiosity, it shows that you’re interested and not afraid to dive a little deeper. It’s quite the pattern interrupt but that’s a good thing. Here are some questions that can get you to this topic: -“What made you want to get into that?” (If she’s discussing her career or college major)
-“What made you do that?” (If she’s discussing a story or a choice she’s made) Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like -“Now that you’re doing X, how do you feel about it?” -“Why did you want to accomplish X?”
The more you dive into these kinds of emotional topics, the easier you’ll connect with women. You’ll stop having polite, “just friends” conversations. What’s more, you’ll start sparking attraction with your words, and find that A LOT more women are “into you.”

Part V: Captivate

How to Talk About Yourself in an Attractive Way

Whether she asks you for your story or you relate things about your life throughout the conversation– you need to know how to talk about yourself in an attractive way. But most men do this all wrong. How? In a few ways… First, they focus on facts and statistics over emotions. Women don’t connect with facts and stats. They connect with emotions. And the way to communicate emotionally is to tell better stories and communicate good qualities. But…Speaking of mistakes, the other big one men make when talking about themselves is that they give away too much too quickly. So, how do you talk about yourself in an attractive way? There are a few elements to this: 1) Understand the purpose of talking about yourself 2) Highlight sexy qualities about yourself 3) Bait her 4) Follow the proper etiquette.
Step #1: Understand the Purpose of Talking About Yourself
The purpose is actually quite simple: To quickly excite and intrigue her and then turn the conversation back over to her.
Step #2: Highlight Sexy Qualities About Yourself
dominance and prosocial behavior are two of the biggest qualities that attract women to men. Dominance, then, is an indicator that a guy is successful with women and has control of his life. And so, it is very attractive to women. how can you convey dominance in conversation? Here are some examples you could talk about: -A time where you achieved something you once thought was impossible -How you took charge of a situation even though you were unsure of the outcome -A time where you successfully led a group of people. Prosocial behaviors are those intended to help other people. When you’re prosocial, you’re concerned about the rights, feelings, and welfare of other people. 
So, how can you convey prosocial behavior in conversation? Here are some examples you could talk about: - A time where you helped somebody less fortunate - A time where you hung out with a group of friends and had fun - A time where you helped a friend accomplish something. So, dominance and prosocial behavior. If you can convey these qualities, you can come off very attractive to women. Adventurousness. Women love spontaneous men. They want the kind of guy who’s going to make them feel alive, challenge them, and excite them. Not the kind of guy they can easily predict. -Appreciation of Beauty. Men who appreciate beauty usually genuinely love women. What’s more, they also tend to enjoy good sex. -Vulnerability. People aren’t perfect. Women appreciate men who can be vulnerable about some of their fears and shortcomings, rather than men who pretend to be perfect.

Step #3: Bait Her

When it comes to talking about yourself, it’s always more powerful when she asks you about something than when you straight up tell her. People value what they have to work for, much more than what they are freely given. 

Baiting technique 1: Make an intriguing statement. Let’s say a girl asks what you do…. When she asks what you do, you can say, “I’m a bit of a chef, but during the day I analyze businesses.” Here’s another example… Let’s say she asks you what you like to do… You could say, “I like reading books and learning in general.” Again, a bit of a boring statement. Now, let’s add some baiting into it… “I love learning and improving. I feel like if you’re not stretching your comfort zone and feeling a little stupid some of the time, you’re not really living.”

Baiting technique 2: Reciprocity. What is reciprocity? Well, as humans, we generally aim to return favors and pay people back when they’ve given us something. When you dive deep on a particular topic about her life, she’ll feel compelled to ask you about that same topic. She’s going to feel a lot of social pressure to reciprocate and ask what you do. At that point, you can use the first baiting technique to keep her intrigued and interested.

Baiting technique 3: The open loop: By telling her Spain is one of your favorite countries, you indirectly signal that you’ve been to other countries (and you have the quality of adventurousness). But then, you continue on with an open-ended question. You’ve created an open loop in her mind because she’ll be curious about what other countries you’ve been to. And by following it up with an open-ended question about her, you do it in a socially savvy way.

Step #4: Follow the Proper Etiquette

Rule 1: Don’t make the conversation all about you

Rule 2: Paint yourself as more than an ordinary guy. The average is boring. Women like men who succeed in the face of adversity, overcome obstacles and have a purpose.

How did he tell that story? If you dissect it, you’ll notice he followed this structure: 1) He started by talking about himself when he was younger and a goal that he had, but wasn’t sure how to accomplish. 2) He mentioned a few obstacles along his way to success. 3) He talked about how he began to finally see some success. 4) He talked about his ultimate success (getting published on bigger sites and growing his blog). If you can use this “talk about yourself” structure, you’ll come across as much more than the average guy.

Rule 3: Be relatable

You now know what to do to talk about yourself in an attractive way. To recap: Step #1: Understand the purpose of talking about yourself Step #2: Highlight sexy qualities about yourself Step #3: Bait her Step #4: Follow the proper etiquette. But how do you put all this together and infuse it into your conversations? One of the best ways to do it is through storytelling…

How to Tell a Kick-Ass Story That Hooks Her In

How to Tell a Kick-Ass Story That Hooks Her In. The first piece is the way you tell the story. To tell a story well, you should have a handle on the most important aspect of good storytelling: Tell the story as if you’re living it. It’s a combination of your tonality, facial expressions, and mood at each moment of your story. You can also make the story more interesting by involving her and pausing at the right times. So, how do you involve her? Ask her pointed questions throughout the story, so she feels like she’s a part of it. For example, “So I was at an improv show the other night– do you like improv? Well, this was just about the funniest show I’ve been to. Maybe I’ll take you to one sometime! Anyway, I was at this show and…”

Here are the components of a story that attracts her: It Should Be About YOU The point of the story is to help you connect with the girl. So, your stories should be about you or something that happened to you. Otherwise, they won’t do much in the way of connecting. It Should Showcase Your Attractive Qualities Remember the qualities we talked about in the last chapter? (Dominance, prosocial behavior, adventurousness, vulnerability, appreciation of beauty) These are the types of qualities you want to showcase in your stories. Don’t worry about stuffing all of them into every story. Aim to highlight 1-3. It Should Be About Something She’s Interested In. There’s one more step to tell a story that hooks her in: You need to have a solid structure. You see, every story has 4 basic elements.

Introduction., Development., Climax., Resolution.

Part VI: The Final Conversation

A Simple Habit to Improve Your Conversation Skills
Here’s the thing: in order to connect with a woman, you need to remove the focus from yourself and put it on her. You need to be present and engaged in the conversation. There’s one simple habit I give to a lot of my clients– and it works like a charm: Try to learn 3 things about her. In other words, you approach a girl with the intent to learn something new about her. It could be any 3 things. But it’s more powerful when the things aren’t simple facts (like what she does, what her name is, etc.). Those are fine to start with, but you’ll make a deeper connection if the things are based more on her emotions and the way she feels. For example, here are a few things you could try to learn in a new conversation: -Something she is passionate about -Why she decided to live in a particular city -What she likes (or dislikes) about her job -A place she’s traveled to– and how she felt about it -What kind of music she’s into -What her aspirations are -Something she’s excited about Think of a few yourself, and use some of these examples. In doing so, you’ll build the habit– and start naturally engaging women in conversation, and improving your ability to connect with them. You’ll also avoid the trap of making the conversation all about you. You know, so you don’t have to be like Walt from Kentucky.

How to Genuinely Love Women
In order to be truly successful with women you need to become a man who loves women. You see, a woman can feel the difference when she’s interacting with a man who genuinely loves women, and one who does not. She quickly develops trust with the man who loves women. She can sense he has no ulterior motive, he enjoys the moment, he understands her, and he appreciates her beauty. And as a result, she is more comfortable moving things further with this man.
Accept Responsibility: This is key for loving women. You must not blame them for your failures, nor allow yourself to become bitter if things don’t go your way.
Understand that Women Are Emotional: Women are emotional creatures, and you can’t blame them for it. The way you analyze situations and problems is much different– much more logical– than the way women do.
Appreciate Her Beauty: As you appreciate her inner and outer beauty, you’ll be more in tune with your natural male instincts.
Have a Mission Outside of Women

20 Questions to Ask a Girl on the First Date

1) What are you passionate about? 2) What do you find sexiest in a guy? 3) What’s your dream job? 4) What’s one thing I wouldn’t guess about you? 5) If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? 6) What kind of things make you laugh the hardest? 7) What was your last big adventure? 8) What’s something you’ve always wanted to do? 9) What do you absolutely love to do? 10) Would you consider yourself a sexual person? 11) Have you ever had sex in a public place? 12) What’s your favorite place you’ve traveled to? 13) If your apartment were on fire, what 2 things would you save? 14) What kind of music do you listen to? 15) If you could go back to one time period in history, what would it be? 16) Do you cook? What’s your favorite meal? 17) What brought you to this city? 18) How did you get into what you’re doing now? 19) What’s your favorite movie of all time? 20) What’s your favorite book of all time?

The most important lessons are to be in control is the most crucial point and making a girl important by turning the conversation towards her and getting on an emotional level can lead to great results.